For a few weeks now I have been thinking about how to surround myself with more positive things and just as importantly, how to minimize my time with things that I do not find fulfilling or rewarding. This is a bit of a real challenge for me in some regards. I like to stay informed and yet much of the information I see brings on feelings of despair and hopelessness as it zaps motivation. One thing that has been going pretty well is my participation in a program through work geared towards helping me get healthier. I weigh in daily and the scale automatically uploads the data for my health coach to see. I also have to log all food intake, exercise, etc. In short, the program adds accountability, reasonable goals, and tracking which have been helping me make positive changes. As someone who has struggled with their weight most of my adult life, I am hopeful this approach will invoke lasting changes.
This week, my health coach encouraged me to make an “un-do list” which aligns quite well with what I was already thinking about in terms of getting more positive. Her sample list is below and I have added some additional (mildly comical) thoughts below and plan to spend some of my day off today “unning”. I will need to think more about additional un-do options.
- Energy-sapping people
- For me this will be cleaning up my Facebook feed, unsubscribing from e-mail feeds, and limiting time with people who are unjoyful. Kindness matters.
i. If the bulk of your contact with me is in regards to asking me for money so you can do pointless things like sending Scott Pruitt (EPA) as many Climate Change for Dummies books as possible, I am unsubscribing.
ii. If your friends call my empathy towards indigenous people dumb, I am unfollowing you
iii. If you are aware of my efforts and goals towards a healthier body and you take joy in shaming me for drinking a 6oz can of apple juice because of all of the sugar it contains, consider yourself unned.
iv. If you do not “believe” in science…
- Energy-sapping food
- I have done pretty well here but need to continue to improve and be vigilant about portion control and rationing sweets
- Over-doing the over-thinking
- Maybe I did too much of this on #1 above
- More social media than socializing
- See 1a (or 1-1 as this goofier editing program made it).
- I am also thinking of invoking phones down time for portions of some evenings. Sometimes our family of four are all within 8 feet of each other and all in our phones.
- More hateful than grateful
- This is a big one. It is easy for me to get riled up about the current negative actions on the environment and spending more time with those working on and implementing solutions as opposed to fighting with the naysayers will make me more grateful.
- Doing someone else’s to do list rather than my own
- There are some areas of my life where this occurs but not too many. I think of this as needing to ask and be honest with myself about how some things make me feel and then making adjustments as necessary.
- Focusing on what I can’t control